You don't have to live with Paruresis (Shy Bladder) controlling your life
I spent 15 years trapped in routine, safety. Now I help people find lasting freedom, through self-acceptance
Paruresis (Shy Bladder) is a social anxiety disorder that makes it difficult or impossible to urinate in public restrooms or anywhere with people nearby. People with shy bladder avoid using toilets that aren’t in their homes. Untreated, this condition can lead to urinary problems and difficulties in all aspects of daily life.
What keeps you
the loop of safety & shame
Paruresis isn't just a loop of repeated failures, scanning for bathrooms, calculating time and distance, feeling your body lock up when it matters most.
It's a prison of shame. A prison of comparison.
It's a way to remain safe. A way to validate to yourself that you're not doing things because you "can't".
And that's okay. Because it does keep you safe.
It keeps you avoiding, keeps you in routine.
Because in the end, what happens if you don’t go to that party, take that flight, go on that date?
Nothing. You stay safe. Nothing changes.
If you’re ready for something to change, ready to trade "safe" for "free", let's find the way together.
Ready to trade "safe" for free? Let's talk
If you haven't yet, read my story
What frees you
the choice of acceptance
I spent years fighting myself. I thought if I could just "be normal", everything would fix itself.
Why couldn't I just pee? Everyone else could.
I felt like such a failure.
I tried to hide it. I presented myself as someone "normal". And that worked. Because I would only show up for the few things that were safe enough. That way, I could pretend.
I tried many techniques, therapies, ways to relax, exposure. Always with one goal in mind: I did not want to be like this.
It never worked.
My breakthrough didn’t come from another technique.
It came when I stopped fighting and started accepting myself:
I'm a person that needs an above average amount of safety to be able to pee.
And that's okay.
No more shame. No more hiding. I embraced it all.
From there, I freed myself.
And that freedom is what I now guide others toward.
What will our approach be?
Shared understanding
What makes this work is that I've lived it.
You’ll be talking to someone who understands - not just the surface struggle, but the shame, the avoidance, the hidden roots.
That means we can go deeper, faster - because you won’t spend time explaining what it’s like. We can start where you actually are.
Self-acceptance
My absolute belief is that overcoming Paruresis, starts with self-acceptance. Because self-acceptance breeds confidence. And we can find that in you, together.
Because once you accept yourself the way you are, everything else can flow. Accepting Paruresis is what made it go. I know it sounds strange, but it's true.
How we work together
Ensuring safety
We start by building a sense of safety.
My role is to make sure you feel truly heard.
I will listen with patience, without judgement, and a genuine desire to help. You should feel safe to speak about things you've never shared before.
If that safety is not felt, or if you don't feel heard or held, we will pause the sessions. If relevant, I will refund you.
Your trust and your feeling of safety are essential.
Rewriting shame
Shame was one of my biggest blocks. It made any attempt at exposure almost doomed to fail.
We will gently explore the shame. Find kinder ways to be with it. Both in thought and action.
Because when shame softens, the path to self-acceptance widens.
And with self-acceptance, comes freedom.
Past, future, now
We’ll look at your story, gently, and without judgment.
We’ll talk about your past:
How Paruresis began, how it grew, what else was happening in your life.
To try and understand how it shaped the reality you're in now.
We’ll talk about your future:
What you truly want, and how Paruresis limits you from reaching that. Even whether you fear a future without Paruresis.
Because fear of the future can hold you back today.
And of course, we’ll talk about your present:
Where you’re stuck now, what it costs you day‑to‑day, what keeps you from changing.
Because the present is where your healing lives, and where your freedom will begin.
Ways to integrate
Throughout this process, as we learn of your history, how you cope, what your patterns are, what holds you back - we’ll find ways to weave those insights into your daily life.
We’ll turn understanding into gentle, actionable steps.
And we’ll make sure everything moves in one direction: less shame, more self-acceptance.
It will take work. You’ll step outside your comfort zone.
But those steps won’t be as scary as you imagine now, because you won’t be taking them from a place of shame, but from a place that’s empty of shame, and full of self-acceptance.
What feels impossible now becomes possible when you’re no longer fighting yourself.
A final word
You don’t have to carry this alone anymore.
Freedom isn’t about becoming someone else - it’s about coming home to yourself.
Book Your Free Introductory Call
No pressure. No agenda. Just a conversation.